Men do not learn what it means to to follow Christ by sitting in a pew. We learn how to follow him through discipleship.
Proverbs 27:17 New Living Translation (NLT)
17 As iron sharpens iron,
so a friend sharpens a friend.
In order to get men back into the church we have to humble ourselves in the presence of God. We need to repent for what we have done to his church. I know he will forgive us and lead us into a time of growth. We need to get back to the origins of Christianity. We need to see what we were called to do for God through Christ.